Hocam elimde benzer bir session kontol ü var burdan bakarak düzenleme yapabilirsiniz.

<body>
<?php if (isset($_SESSION["oturum"])) {?>
<div id="header">
	<div class="header">
		<ul class="ust_sec">
			<li class="arkadas"></li>
			<li class="mesaj"></li>
			<li class="bildirim"></li>
		</ul>
	</div>
</div>

<div class="alt">
	<a href="cikis.php">Çıkış Yap</a>
	Hoşgeldin, <?php echo $_SESSION["oturum"]; ?>
	<form action="gonder.php" method="post">
		<table>
			<tr>
				<td>Mesaj Gönderin</td>
			</tr>
			<tr>
				<td>Kişi seçin</td>
				<td>
					<select name="kime" id="">
						<?php 

						$sor = mysql_query("select * from uyeler");
						while ($row = mysql_fetch_array($sor)) {
							echo "<option value='".$row["id"]."'>".$row["kadi"]."</option>";
						}

						 ?>
					</select>
				</td>
			</tr>
			<tr>
				<td>Mesajınız</td>
				<td>
					<textarea name="mesaj" id="" cols="30" rows="10"></textarea>
				</td>
			</tr>
			<tr>
				<td>&nbsp;</td>
				<td>
					<input type="submit" value="Gönder" name="gonder">
				</td>
			</tr>
		</table>
	</form>	
</div>
<?php } else { ?>
<form action="giris.php" method="post" name="Form1">
	<table>
		<tr>
			<td>Adınız</td>
			<td><input type="text" name="adi"></td>
		</tr>
		<tr>
			<td>Parola</td>
			<td><input type="password" name="pw"></td>
		</tr>
		<tr>
			<td>&nbsp;</td>
			<td><input type="submit" value="Gönder"></td>
		</tr>
	</table>
</form>
<?php } ?>