bunu kullan, gözden kaçırdığın kucuk bir nokta var sadece 4. satırda.. $_POST['send'] diye birşey yok ama sen post[send] == "ok" demişsin, bu şeklde çalışır
<?
error_reporting(E_ALL); ini_set("display_errors", 1);
if ($_POST['submit']) {
$sqlayar=mysql_query("Select * from ayar");
$strayar=mysql_fetch_array($sqlayar);
$mailMessage = "<br />";
$mailMessage .= "<B>Adi Soyadi : $_POST[ad]</B><br /><br />";
//$mailMessage .= "Telefon : $_POST[tel]<br />";
$mailMessage .= "tel : $_POST[tel]<br />";
$mailMessage .= "E-Mail : $_POST[email] <br />";
$mailMessage .= "Talep Tipi : $_POST[tip] <br />";
$mailMessage .= "Mesaj : $_POST[mesaj]<br />";
$tarih=date("d-m-Y");
$ip=$_SERVER['REMOTE_ADDR'];
$mailMessage .= "Gönderilen Ip : $ip<br />";
$mailMessage .= "Tarih: $tarih<br />";
$sender = $strayar['gonderen'];
//$bcc = "$male";
$kime= $strayar['alan'];
$subject = "Iletisim";
include('htmlMimeMail.php');
$mail = new htmlMimeMail();
$mail->setFrom($sender);
$mail->setBcc($bcc);
$mail->setSubject($subject);
$mail->setHtml($mailMessage);
$mail->setHeader('X-Mailer', 'HTML Mime mail class');
$result = $mail->send(array($kime), 'smtp');
if ($result) { header("Location: index.php?page=talepformu&mesaj=ok"); }
}
?><!DOCTYPE html PUBLIC "-//W3C//DTD XHTML 1.0 Transitional//EN" "http://www.w3.org/TR/xhtml1/DTD/xhtml1-transitional.dtd">
<html xmlns="http://www.w3.org/1999/xhtml">
<head>
<meta http-equiv="Content-Type" content="text/html; charset=utf-8" />
<title>Untitled Document</title>
<style type="text/css">
<!--
body {
margin-left: 0px;
margin-top: 0px;
margin-right: 0px;
margin-bottom: 0px;
}
.style1 {
color: #850707;
font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;
font-size: 12px;
font-weight: bold;
}
.style2 {
color: #406b9b;
font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;
font-size: 12px;
font-weight: bold;
}
-->
</style></head>
<body>
<body>
<div class="baslik">Fiyat Talep Formu</div>
<div class="hr"></div>
<form id="form1" name="form1" method="post" action="">
<table width="900" border="0" cellspacing="3" cellpadding="3">
<?php
$kontrol = 0; if ($_POST['submit']) $kontrol = 1;
if ($kontrol == 1){
$ad_soyad = $_POST['ad_soyad'];
$eposta = $_POST['eposta'];
$telefon = $_POST['telefon'];
$tip = $_POST['tip'];
$mesaj = $_POST['mesaj'];
if (empty($ad_soyad) || empty($eposta) || empty($telefon) || empty($tip) || empty($mesaj))
{
echo'
<tr>
<td width="273" colspan="3"><span style="font-weight:bold;color:red;">Lütfen Tüm Alanları Doldurun</span></td>
</tr>';
}else{
$mesajj = '<span style="font-size:14px;">Fiyat Talep Formu</span>
<table>
<tr>
<td>Adı Soyadı</td>
<td>:</td>
<td>'.$ad_soyad.'</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>E Posta</td>
<td>:</td>
<td>'.$eposta.'</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Telefon</td>
<td>:</td>
<td>'.$telefon.'</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Sigorta Tipi</td>
<td>:</td>
<td>'.$tip.'</td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td>Mesaj</td>
<td>:</td>
<td>'.$mesaj.'</td>
</tr>
</table>
<br/>Bu mesaj otomatik olarak sistem tarafından gönderilmektedir.';
$kime = 'info@sigorta.com.tr';
$konum = 'Fiyat Talep Formu';
$eposta($kime,$konum,$mesajj);
$sql = mysql_query ("INSERT INTO fiyat_talep (id,ad_soyad,eposta,telefon,tip,mesaj,okuma) VALUES ('0','$ad_soyad','$eposta','$telefon','$tip','$mesaj','0')");
if ($sql){
echo'<tr><td width="273" colspan="3"><span style="font-weight:bold;color:blue;">Mesajınız başarıyla kaydedildi.</span></td></tr>';
}
$ad_soyad = NULL;
$eposta = NULL;
$telefon = NULL;
$mesaj = NULL;
}
}
?>
<tr>
<td width="273"><span class="style1">Adınız Soyadınız </span></td>
<td width="4" class="style1"> </td>
<td width="593"><input name="ad_soyad" type="text" style="border-left:solid 1px #000066; border-right:solid 1px #000066; border-top:solid 1px #000066; border-bottom:solid 1px #000066; width:200px; color:#000" /></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="style1">E-Posta Adresiniz </td>
<td class="style1"> </td>
<td><input name="eposta" type="text" style="border-left:solid 1px #000066; border-right:solid 1px #000066; border-top:solid 1px #000066; border-bottom:solid 1px #000066;; width:200px; color:#000" /></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="style1">Telefon Numaranız </td>
<td class="style1"> </td>
<td><input name="telefon" type="text" style="border-left:solid 1px #000066; border-right:solid 1px #000066; border-top:solid 1px #000066; border-bottom:solid 1px #000066; width:200px; color:#000" /></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="style1">Fiyat Almak İstediğiniz Hizmet </td>
<td class="style1"> </td>
<td><select name="tip" style="border-left:solid 1px #000066; border-right:solid 1px #000066; border-top:solid 1px #000066; border-bottom:solid 1px #000066;width:200px; color:#000 ">
<option value="Oto Sigorta">Oto Sigorta</option>
<option value="Konut Sigorta">Konut Sigorta</option>
<option value="Hayat Sigorta">Hayat Sigorta</option>
<option value="Diğer Sigortalar">Diğer Sigortalar</option>
</select> </td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td class="style1">Mesajınız</td>
<td class="style1"> </td>
<td><textarea name="mesaj" rows="5" style="border-left:solid 1px #000066; border-right:solid 1px #000066; border-top:solid 1px #000066; border-bottom:solid 1px #000066; width:200px;height:50px;"></textarea></td>
</tr>
<tr>
<td colspan="2"> </td>
<td><input type="submit" name="submit" value="Gönder" style="border-left:solid 1px #000066; border-right:solid 1px #000066; border-top:solid 1px #000066; border-bottom:solid 1px #000066;; background-color:#3E6B93; color:#FFFFFF " />
</td>
</tr>
</table>
</form></body>
</html>